Don’t Wait. Missed Opportunities Are Hard To Get Back.

MountainsDon’t wait.

Don’t wait until tomorrow to tell the ones you love that you love them. There’s just no good reason.

Don’t wait for a better day to start something new. Today is a great day.

Don’t wait until you’re not so busy. If you’re lucky, there will always be something.

Don’t wait to say I’m sorry.

Don’t wait to walk your dog. They love you unconditionally so make sure you’re giving them everything they deserve.

Don’t wait to have that tough conversation with someone because you’re afraid of the outcome.

Don’t wait for someone to send you flowers. Give them to yourself.

Don’t wait for the “right time in your life” to start taking better care of yourself.

Don’t wait to thank your clients, coworkers, bosses or customers.

Don’t wait until you think you look better to take that picture. Trust me, you will not regret this one years from now.

Don’t wait to quit that bad habit. Quit it and never look back. It won’t get any easier by waiting.

Don’t wait to try a new haircut.

Don’t wait to ask for help. No one should suffer alone. People are remarkably kind.

Don’t wait to start your blog until you have enough ideas.

Don’t wait to call you mom, your dad, your aunt. You will not be able to do this forever.

Don’t wait to catch a break. Create your own future.

Don’t wait for things to get easier. They never will and you’ll waste precious time.

Don’t wait for the next experience.

Don’t wait to be happy. Find happiness in everything–the small moments, the seemingly insignificant things, the let-downs, the hardships, the successes and of course, don’t wait to give happiness back.

Whatever you do, don’t wait. Today is as good a day as any.

4 Techniques To Face Conflict, Live Peacefully

http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Girl_suffering_form_anxiety.JPGThis above all; to thine own self be true. -William Shakespeare

I am so non-confrontation that even the mere thought of saying anything to someone that might rub them the wrong way or cause any discomfort has always given me instant anxiety.

Since I can remember, I have been this way. I’m opinionated and strong-willed, but when it comes to confronting a problem with someone head on, I’ve always buckled, preferring to dance around the subject, hoping that it will resolve itself.  

If this at all sounds like you, you know it’s an exhausting way to live. I’ve always said I am like that because I don’t like to cause discomfort on others. But it’s become obvious to me in the last few years that this approach of passiveness doesn’t prevent discomfort, it actually prolongs it. 

It’s time to speak the truth…out loud! 

When I started facing uncomfortable situations head-on and out-right, it was like a weight lifting off of me. I still need to take my time to process my thoughts and I don’t like to deal with major issues without this period of reflection so I can be sure to look at all angles but ultimately, I confront the issue sooner than later. 

 

It’s incredible how much more simple life becomes just by facing confrontation instead of tucking it away. Here are a few techniques I’ve used to overcome my powerful dislike for confrontation. 

1. Is it truly a confrontation?

When I started specifically asking myself this question, I realized that I tend to categorize any little difference of opinion as a possible confrontation and in return giving the encounter much more weight than it actually needs. 

Recently, I was in an a large group meeting in which I didn’t agree with the ideas that were being discussed. I decided not to speak up because I was afraid that I was in the minority with my opinion. I was so concerned about the discussion that I brought it up at the end of the session with my boss.

When I spoke my mind, I realized it wasn’t a confrontation at all. Our team discussed it again at the next meeting and I spoke my mind. It ended up being a wonderful discussion and the team was actually able to move some great new ideas forward. 

So, when you’re facing what you perceive as a confrontation, ask yourself if it really is a confrontation or just a discussion that includes some difference of opinions. 

2. If confrontation is necessary, think through what you want to say. 

Often confrontation ends up being tension-filled and uncomfortable because we bring emotion in to the moment. It helps to take the time and think through the situation first. Plan out what you want to say and identify your purpose. 

Give yourself some time, write down your thoughts and then deal with the issue. 

3. Don’t wait for the other party. Speak up.

Being the first person to speak can be helpful. It sets the tone for the conversation and can relieve some of the anxiety the other party may have about confronting the situation as well. 

Say what you want to say but do it in a non-threatening way. Acknowledge that you see things differently which is why you’re bringing it up versus going on the attack. 

4. Be true to yourself.

It was really powerful when I figured out that I’m worthy of speaking my own truth. I realized I was putting so much equity in how the other person might feel that I dismissed my own concerns. Don’t forget that your opinion matters and you should always be true to yourself.

Avoiding conflict also leaves other’s constantly guessing how you feel and if they can’t read you, they certainly will have a harder time trusting you. Putting off confrontation only prolongs a difficult situation and often makes it even worse but learning to handle it in the right ways remarkably makes life feel much more peaceful. 

 

Photo Cred: Wikimedia

 

Live In The Now, Be Mindful And Authentic

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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore, Dream, Discover. –Mark Twain

Time moves fast and you can’t get it back. In his TedTalk, The 3 A’s of Awesome, Neil Pasricha reminds us that to get the most of life, we should always be aware of three main things. Our attitudes and how we react to things in our lives, our awareness of the world around us, and our commitment to being our authentic selves.

It’s something we all know and say often but it’s worth repeating: time moves fast and you can’t get it back.  So live your life in the moment and always with 3 A’s in mind: Attitude, Awareness, Authenticity.

Face Your Own Vulnerabilities With Courage

Nathan Williams FlickrWhy is it that when someone else does something like speaking at a conference or standing up for what’s right despite the opposite opinion of the majority, it seems like courage and then, we ourselves are in that very place, it seems more like vulnerability? It’s all a matter of perception.

In truth, vulnerability and courage go hand in hand. Everyone is vulnerable. We all must make the decision of whether or not we will face our vulnerability head on. And when we do, that’s courageous.

“When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our precious time, and we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. Perfect and bulletproof are seductive, but they don’t exist in the human experience.” -Brené Brown

 

Photo Cred: Nathan Williams

9 Things To Stop Doing To Yourself Right Away

Maria RobinsonWe’re living life at an insanely fast pace and the time for self-reflection can be hard to find. But there are things we can each do to improve our lives, right this moment, if we become more aware of some of our most detrimental habits.

  1. Stop worrying about everyone else. We spend so much time focusing on what’s fair and what’s not fair–even on issues that will never really affect us personally. Concentrate on the things you can do, change, create. Think about the things you have and the opportunities that lie before you. When you stop worrying about getting your fair share or other’s taking too much of theirs, life becomes far less stressful.
  2. Stop holding on to the past. What’s done is done and while reflection is crucial, wallowing in things that cannot be changed makes no sense. You can’t move forward if you’re constantly focusing on things that have already happened.
  3. Stop hating on yourself for your old mistakes. In the same vein as “stop holding on to the past” it’s important to not only move on from things that have happened but to give yourself some tolerance for the mistakes you’ve made. Everyone screws up–everyone has things that they would like to go back and do over (typically not possible). The “shoulda-coulda-woulda” mentality can prevent you from being even greater going forward if you let it.
  4. Stop waiting for the perfect moment. You will never be 100% ready. Really worth-it opportunities in life force us to step beyond our comfort zones, leaving us feeling vulnerable at first. Just remember that remarkable things happen when you push yourself beyond what you already know.
  5. Stop being jealous of other people. I once heard someone say “jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings.” Give love, compassion and gratefulness to others and you’ll get what you need in return.
  6. Stop trying to be perfect. If you spend all of your time trying to make something perfect, it will never get done. It takes courage to embrace the imperfect but the rewards are much greater.
  7. Stop looking at the world through only your own lens. Our most common reaction to anything is to instantly think “how will I be affected,” “how does this make my life different,” “how do I feel about this?”  And because of that automatic lens, we often miss great opportunities because we cannot see outside of our very small viewpoint. Open your mind and try hard to see different points of view on every situation, change, action or opinion.
  8. Stop focusing on the negative. There is a negative and positive side to nearly every situation. Life has conditioned us to immediately look at what could go wrong, why something won’t work, what’s not good enough. Instead, find the bright spot–the positive–and then focus on how to make it brighter.
  9. Stop worrying about every possible thing. Worry will not take away the challenges of tomorrow and it will absolutely take away the joy of today. Think carefully when you catch yourself in a whirlwind of worry, “will my worry effect the outcome for tomorrow, next year, ten years from now?” “And is there anything I can do about it at the moment?” Chances are many of the things you’re worried are going to happen anyways so it’s best to deal in reality and live in the moment.

Let’s Look At Women They Way They Really Are

We’ve all seen it: The picture of the young, fashionable woman, with perfectly sculpted arms, white teeth and a juicy looking cocktail in hand laughing like she’s having the time of her life while talking to a man at a bar. Conversely, we’ve all seen the one of the disheveled woman, looking stressed, hair out-of-place, with a crying child in her arms and an apron around her waist, juggling the telephone and child while standing in the kitchen.

On Monday, in collaboration with LeanIn.org, the nonprofit founded by Sheryl Sandberg with the purpose of empowering women, GettyImages launched a collection of more than 2,500 images of “female leadership in contemporary work and life.” (GettyImages)

This new collection of powerful images of women are hopeful and inspiring to those who believe we can change the world, one picture at a time.

View the full collection: GettyImages / Read more about it: LeanIn

 

Compassionate Eye / Getty Images

Compassionate Eye / Getty Images

 

Thomas Barwick / Getty Images

Thomas Barwick / Getty Images

 

Thomas Barwick / Iconica / Getty Images

Thomas Barwick / Iconica / Getty Images

 

 
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