Shake It Off–This Could Be Your Best Resolution Yet

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There’s no doubt that emotions have a physical effect on the body. We get scared; we feel stiff, weak and cold throughout the body. We get angry; we get hot and dizzy, our hearts pound heavily. We get nervous; we feel jittery and our hearts race.

The instances are countless in which I didn’t make an active decision on how I would deal with a situation and consequently the emotions that accompanied my perception of the problem really got the best of me. Making that conscious decision is a really tough to do in the thick of things, but failure to do so takes a heavy toll on the mind and body.

Once I read that there are 3 options that provide us the space to move forward when it comes to taking control of our emotions, decisions, actions and to can let go of the hold our emotions have on us long-term.

  1. Confront the problem and create a resolution. The key: stick with the decision.
  2. Compromise on the problem. The key: live with the decision.
  3. Actively choose to ignore the problem. The key: move on–be at peace with this decision and remember that it was your own.

Some situations are more difficult to resolve than others. But one constant is that while we can’t control what other people say, feel, think or do, we can control how we react to the situation. The more actively I practice this, the more I recognize just how much impact my control of emotions, or lack thereof, affect my overall well-being.

There’s a new year beginning and many of us are setting goals to grow and become better than we were the year before. It feels like a great time to adopt a “shake it off” philosophy and choose to control our emotions more instead of letting them control more of us.

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“When the winds of change blow, some people build walls and other people build windmills.” Chinese proverb

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To Anyone Who Feels They Don’t Fit In

here's to the crazy ones

Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them; disagree with them; glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. Maybe they have to be crazy. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do…”  -Apple, Inc.

Laugh When You Can, Apologize When You Should & Let Go Of What You Cannot Change

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We spend a lot of time and energy trying to change things that are out of our control. It’s a major cause of frustration, anxiety and self-deflation. We can’t change our pasts, mistakes we’ve made, another person’s thoughts or beliefs (unless they choose to change them), who we are related to, the weather, sexual preferences, what others say and do, and all of the things we don’t acknowledge. Yet it’s natural to want to change these things when they affect us emotionally.

While there are many external things we cannot change, we all have the ability to control how we let those things affect us personally. We can change our own reactions to life.

10 Ways To Remain Positively In Control Of Our Own Lives

1) I focus my energy on what I am able to do and what is in my control.

2) I  learn from my past failures and while I won’t let them control me, I will use those lesson to be better in the future.

3) I never, ever see failure as permanent.

4) I will not hold grudges–they only affect my future, not resolve my past.

5) I  remember that everything that happens is for a reason–and it’s up to me to find the positive and grow.

6) I know that there are many wAys to view the world and I’ll respect that even though I don’t agree with someone, they have a right to their opinions and feelings.

7) I do not let criticism or failure stop me from doing anything.

8) I am a life-long learner and will remain open to changing my mind. I will forever seek new information and ways to see the world.

9) I surround myself with positivity. I will look for solutions and the bright spots in situations.

10) I am too busy thinking of the possibilities of the future to dwell on things in the past.

The control is in our own hands. We can cannot change someone else–what can can change is how we let them affect us, our opinions and judgements of them, and how we react to them.  We cannot change what is in our past–but we can change how much it will control our future, whether or not we will grow, forgive, apologize, let go or move on.

We will always be faced with challenges, change, criticism and adversity. Those things can stop us, hold us back and weigh us down or they can be catalysts for our own growth and remarkability. View the world with as much positivity as possible and do amazing things–on any scale.

Be strong, imperfect, courageous and willing to make mistakes. Don’t just go with the masses because that’s where the masses are going–the best things come from individual thought.

Keep looking forward. Everything counts. Everyone matters. Create the version of the world you want to see.

 
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