We spend a lot of time and energy trying to change things that are out of our control. It’s a major cause of frustration, anxiety and self-deflation. We can’t change our pasts, mistakes we’ve made, another person’s thoughts or beliefs (unless they choose to change them), who we are related to, the weather, sexual preferences, what others say and do, and all of the things we don’t acknowledge. Yet it’s natural to want to change these things when they affect us emotionally.
While there are many external things we cannot change, we all have the ability to control how we let those things affect us personally. We can change our own reactions to life.
10 Ways To Remain Positively In Control Of Our Own Lives
1) I focus my energy on what I am able to do and what is in my control.
2) I learn from my past failures and while I won’t let them control me, I will use those lesson to be better in the future.
3) I never, ever see failure as permanent.
4) I will not hold grudges–they only affect my future, not resolve my past.
5) I remember that everything that happens is for a reason–and it’s up to me to find the positive and grow.
6) I know that there are many wAys to view the world and I’ll respect that even though I don’t agree with someone, they have a right to their opinions and feelings.
7) I do not let criticism or failure stop me from doing anything.
8) I am a life-long learner and will remain open to changing my mind. I will forever seek new information and ways to see the world.
9) I surround myself with positivity. I will look for solutions and the bright spots in situations.
10) I am too busy thinking of the possibilities of the future to dwell on things in the past.
The control is in our own hands. We can cannot change someone else–what can can change is how we let them affect us, our opinions and judgements of them, and how we react to them. We cannot change what is in our past–but we can change how much it will control our future, whether or not we will grow, forgive, apologize, let go or move on.
We will always be faced with challenges, change, criticism and adversity. Those things can stop us, hold us back and weigh us down or they can be catalysts for our own growth and remarkability. View the world with as much positivity as possible and do amazing things–on any scale.
Be strong, imperfect, courageous and willing to make mistakes. Don’t just go with the masses because that’s where the masses are going–the best things come from individual thought.
Keep looking forward. Everything counts. Everyone matters. Create the version of the world you want to see.