Leadership & Change
I pick it up. I feel through the pages for the dog-eared one and begin again. I read two pages and have only a shy comprehension of the words I just read. It should be interesting–it’s a beautiful picture of a lonely man in a foreign country caught in love with someone who loves for a living. I’m uninterested. I press on. I’m half way through the book.
And now here I am, forcing something just to finish. I’m wound tight in the idea that if I hold out a little longer, read one more chapter, I’ll get it, feel it. But I know better. Life is strange and scintillating and above all, finite. There are some things to press through, to see to the end. Shitty novels are not one of them.
Gathered from scraps of paper, sticky notes, the backs of bills, a cocktail napkin, words spoken to Siri, some never posted blog drafts and a recent hallway conversation, these are things I’m learning to live by.
- Be intentional. Wake up each morning and decide you’re going to make a difference in someone’s life.
- Take criticism with grace. If it’s true, find a way to make the change. If it’s not true, let it go.
- When someone gives you a compliment, say thank you.
- Laugh when you can, apologize when you should and let go of things you cannot change.
- Make decisions. When you take to long, you waste a lot of time “thinking” and slow your momentum. Still, when you make a decision, stick to it for as long as it makes sense and allow yourself to change your mind when needed.
- Trust your gut. Especially when you don’t want to.
- Begin. Start now. Don’t wait for permission. “If you want to live the life you haven’t lived, you have to you’ve to do things you’ve never done.” -Jen Sincero
- It’s never too late to start over. If yesterday sucked, begin again. If you weren’t happy with the results of your efforts last week, try something new. The point is, move forward. Don’t stay stuck. Evolve.
- Love hard.
- Don’t insulate yourself from pain and discomfort. You’ll grow more if you let it in then if you waste your energy building a wall.
- Don’t be afraid of failure; it’s part of the creative process. The point is (see #7) you’ve got to dive in head first, with passion and determination. Acknowledge when things aren’t working and change, quickly. Caveat: Know the difference between the work is hard and this is the uncomfortable part and this isn’t working, it’s time to switch gears.