If you hold on to something you can’t control, it will grow in power and control over you. But letting go is really challenging and there are some reasons that it feels safe to hold on:
- You don’t have to face what you don’t know.
- It’s easier to be the victim and gain support and empathy from others.
- You can hold on to the feeling that you are right.
But what are you really gaining by not letting go?
Whatever it is that is controlling you:
- Accept it for what it is. If it’s something to let go of, chances are, there is nothing you can do to change it and acceptance of that is liberating.
- Forgive. Sometimes forgiving yourself or someone else who may have been the cause of the pain can go a long way once you’ve accepted that it’s just the way it is. Just because you forgive does not mean you have to stay passive if the same situation arises again.
- Focus on what you can affect. Direct the energy that you were using to hold on in to what you know you can change. Find ways to move forward.
- Practice letting go. You’re going to have to do it over and over again.
It’s not easy to let go but it really does get easier with practice. And it’s easier to let go when you accept, forgive and release the emotions you hold towards the physical object, weight, pride, past actions or memory. Whatever it is that you are trying to let go of, just beyond it, there is wide open space to do so much more.